Are you beginning to get frustrated with your mate because you do not feel like they ever make an effort to make things better or more exciting between the two of you? Do you feel like you are the only one who plans special evenings or those little surprises? This is the way that a lot of people that have been married or living together for a while can start to feel when their partner does not try to make the relationship grow any closer. It does not always have to be that you have been with the person a long time, sometimes this can happen pretty quickly with a couple, for at least one of them anyway.

If you are the type of person that likes to give your partner little gifts or even big ones, you can get your feelings hurt when they do not return those same favors and love tokens to you. Maybe you spend extra time at the supermarket picking out all of the things that you know they like or perhaps you hang out with certain people with him or her just to make them happy. If this is what you are experiencing, it usually means one thing most of the time, you are a giver and they are a taker.

Now, this does not always mean that there is something really wrong with them on the other hand. Perhaps they do not even realize that you are going to as much trouble as you are to please them. They might not think that all of those niceties are necessary because they are really comfortable in the relationship. You probably think that they should be very comfortable since you believe you are doing all those things that make them happy and are not getting much in return.

You can confront them about it and just say outright that maybe you think you are getting short changed in the I care about you department and they might be apologetic and say they will try to do better to show you they want to be close too. Or you could just tone down being so giving and accommodating and see what happens. After a week or two they might realize that things have changed a little and they might even think that you are ignoring them in a sense. This can be your opportunity to voice your feelings in a calm and collected way. You do not want them to think that the only reason you do things for them and are so loving is because you expect something. But then, of course, you do expect something.

A lot of times a mate who really did not know they were giving you the short end of the stick will apologize and will try to do better. Some people are just not as attentive as you might be. Then there are the real jerks that always expect more from others than they have to give in return and it will be up to you to figure out which one your partner really is.

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